To the Woman Who Has Had an Abortion and Finds Her Way to this Page:
Welcome, my Friend!
You may or may not be struggling with your abortion at this time. It is my experience in hearing the stories of thousands of women over the past 13 years that you may be feeling many things. Whatever you are feeling at this time, you are welcome here.
I became interested in the aftermath of abortion many years ago, before abortion even became legal, when a friend of mine became pregnant. She came from a disordered family and had been pregnant once before. She gave birth to the first child and gave the child up for adoption. In the many years that followed the abortion, my friend struggled a great deal. She always said to me, "I can live with the adoption. I can't live with the abortion." She taught me everything I now about abortion's aftermath. You know how it is--some events in your life just stay with you forever. Always I carried her pain in my heart and always I felt helpless to help her. I just didn't know how to help!
As time went on and fate unfolded, I was put into a position where I could again recall my friend and think about how I might be able to help other women who hurt as much as she did. Certainly not everyone hurt that much, but if I could help someone that did hurt, then my friend's pain was at least not in vain.
My concern led me to found Project Rachel, which has become the post-abortion healing outreach within the Catholic Church, and led me further to form the National Office of Post-Abortion Reconciliation and Healing. This organization is ecumenical and non-denominational. We have a national "800" referral line (1-800-5WE-CARE) that enables us to help people looking for support to find it in their own communities, at least as far as we are able. Sad to say, some communities still don't have outreach or support groups.
My intention here is not to assume that everyone coming to this page is struggling after an abortion. Some women seem to cope well and continue on with their lives. Others suffer a great deal, and some women are somewhere along the continuum in needing to make sense of the experience. Our hope is simply to provide you with the information and support you need to continue on your life's journey.
To those who are fine after their abortions: God bless you. To those who are struggling after an abortion: there is hope! I promise you that if you embark on a journey of healing and move through the process of grieving for this experience, you will come to a better place. There will always be a tender place in your heart, but you will be able to move forward with a new understanding of yourself and of what you have been through.
There is no exact description of the aftermath of abortion. Just as each person is a unique individual, so too will their reaction to an abortion be unique. For this reason, I will refer to your reaction as abortion aftermath. Click the link to learn more about it.
Please remember that we are not here to judge you--we are here to help you. If you would like any more information, advice, or help, please e-mail us or call us at 1-800-5WE-CARE. We're ready to help you throughout your journey of healing!